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Women’s Little Christmas

In celebration of the feast of the Epiphany in Ireland, January 6th is marked by Nollaig na mBan or Women’s Little Christmas. In some households, the Christmas tree and decorations will be down and the children will be preparing to return to school on Monday.

Nollaig na mBan acknowledges the graft of weary mothers and grandmothers over the festive season - in the days long before frozen turkeys and M&S prepared meals - A time when slow cooking was a way of life and not a fashion fad.

This link will take you to a wonderful blog post from a few years ago by my good friend Wisewebwoman telling of this old Irish tradition of celebrating the day.

Tradition dictated that the women put their feet up, while the men took care of the housework.

Alas, in our house my father saw no reason to ever enter the kitchen, never mind take over the chores.  Mammy had the night off once the evening meal was over.

We sat round the fire and chatted until Nora & Gus arrived. The girls did not touch alcoholic drink apart from this one night in the year.  Neither liked the taste of the drink, but with much crumpling of faces and squinting of eyes they managed to share a bottle between them.

What did they have?

A bottle of Babycham – all of 20 or 25cls.

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Dano

It was dusk on Saint Martin’s* eve in a small village in County Clare, and there was commotion a plenty.  John, the Postmaster, was not sure who made the most noise: The goose abroad in the yard having its neck pulled in readiness for the feast day dinner, or his wife inside in the bed bringing forth her latest child.

The wailing subsided both indoor and out to be replaced by the gentle cry of a newborn son.  Daniel Martin was their ninth child, one of whom was stillborn, and the family was completed a few years later with the addition of two more boys.

Dan, with his four sisters and five brothers, were part of a large family circle that stretched across the county.  He grew up in a busy household.  Besides running the Post office, their father John became:

Registrar of Births, Marriages and Deaths
Travel Agent for all the Trans Atlantic shipping lines
Insurance Agent,
The Inspector of Gunpowder and Gun Licenses.
An Import/Export Agent
He opened a grocery, so stamps and postal orders were sold at one counter and groceries at the one opposite.

Certainly Dan’s father was the man who anyone wishing to emigrate to America or England went to for his or her Identification Papers.

John later extended his portfolio, as we say today, by buying a farm – he had a large family to feed and rear, and the boys took their turn at bringing home the cows for milking and taking them back to the fields before and after school each day.

Dan’s mother worked in the shop as well as keeping hens, geese, a goat and I think the couple of pigs were under her charge too.

After supper, each school day, it was time for homework.  Dan’s father sat at the head of the table and presided over this task. Catechism, spellings, reading, writing and mental arithmetic were all part of this school outside school.  He had a Ready Reckoner, which he used in his Post Office work. This he explained and taught the older children how to use.

After the homework the concertina was taken off the dresser and John played jigs, reels and hornpipes.  Now and again the floor was cleared and the Siege of Ennis, the Walls of limerick or a hornpipe was danced.  On Sundays, fair days or pension days, friends came into the kitchen for a cup of tea.  At night a mug of porter was mulled and the old songs were sung to the accompaniment of the concertina.  The kitchen was certainly the heart of the home.

At the age of eleven Dan’s world changed.  His father died.

Leaving school at the age of fourteen Dan went to serve his time as a Draper’s assistant, first in Ennis, before moving on to the Midlands and eventually landing up in Dublin.  In those carefree early Dublin days, his spare time was spent playing golf, dancing the nights away and travelling the land with his friends while wetting his whistle with a pint and a chaser (or three…)!

Young Dan

Shortly after the outbreak of World War 2, he met and married a Dublin lass and they added to the population four boys and two girls.  He lived to see all but three of his grandchildren and he insisted that he be called Dan and not granddad. He felt that if he were called by the latter name he would be expected to have all the answers!

Dan & Nana

Ill health interrupted his life for over twenty odd years and he died at Christmas in 1981. RIP.

Stories of his childhood travelled down the years to our young ears round our fireside.  We lived the vividly told tales….

Walking to school through the fields in bare feet on an early spring or summer morning with the dew squishing between his toes or carrying turf for the school room fire to battle away the chill of the draughts and howling winter winds.

The annual killing of the pigs.  The hams hung on great big hooks over the fire to cure and the making of the puddings.  The more faces we made, the more embellished the stories of pudding making became. We almost believed we were back in those days holding the scalded intestine and trying hard not to let it slip or fall in case Granny’s wet and bloody hand landed across our ear!  We lived it, I tell you!

There was the art of milking a goat without it kicking over the bucket or adding fresh little nuggets to spoil the flavour! ;)

Days in the bog cutting turf and stacking it to dry. The late afternoon tea brought to the workers by the women folk.  Tea brewed in a billy-can, and buttermilk to drink, griddle bread with home made butter and curranty cake.  All the fresh air and hard work made for good sauce.

Although only three when Dan died, Elly has her own story about Dan’s magic tin.  I will let her add it herself….

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Today on this Saint Martin’s eve, the hundredth anniversary of Dan’s birth, my siblings and I, our children and theirs will spend a few minutes in quiet reflection and perhaps raise a glass to the memory of Dan, our father, their grandfather & great grandfather.

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*St Martin of Tours Feast Day is November 11 (Roman Catholic Church, Eastern Orthodox Churches, Anglican Communion)

** Thursday Special will return next week

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A week away

I went to Dublin last week and spent my time playing with Buffy, visiting friends, shopping, eating, drinking and giggling like a school girl!  (I’ll not mention all the toyboys I met… hugged…. and kissed!!!)

I spent most of Wednesday in Dublin City.  I sauntered and rambled about with the camera and found a few ‘toyboys’ sitting or lying about the town.  Each had a quiet spot where I could linger, mind you the chat was rather one sided….  You saw one of them in Sunday’s post and there will be more over the next couple of weeks.

I moved on to keep an appointment with Alice of My Wintersong and Pasu, her husband, who live in Utah.  They were in Ireland for a few days as part of a tour of Scotland and Ireland. I thoroughly enjoyed our time together, and it was great to meet in realtime!  As I always say, we (bloggers) get to know each other on-line from the inside, so meeting is the icing on the cake.

I did take my arm back and allowed him to go home with Alice! :lol:

Thursday I found time to visit @eolai/ Liam in his studio and return a blank canvas that I offered to take back to Dublin for him.  He was in fine fettle and back painting again after a couple of days rest.

Friday I went to Maynooth, shopping for a girlie night in, with some of Elly’s colleagues from Stateside.  We did have fun and the craic was mighty.

Saturday we headed for the City once more and a little retail therapy.  My sister joined us and we began with lunch in Brown’s Bar & Café by Carton House – at Brown Thomas department store.

As we headed for the escalator I was accosted greeted and hugged by Rowan Manahan It was wonderful to catch up even for a few minutes.  I do hope his dear wife forgave me for keeping him late.

After lunch it was a rib crushing hug from Darragh before we followed the crowd for the launch of Gorgeous to Go, The Beaut.ie Guide to Smart Shopping, by Aisling McDermott.

Some of the ‘Gals’ waiting to have copies of the book signed.

Photo of the book and goodie bag

With Elly and my sister, Photo by Kirstie

After all that excitement we went in search of ice cream, but not before I bought a pair of boots for the winter.  With all the talk of a harsh winter and forecast for snow, I need to be prepared.

On Saturday evening I moved to my sister’s and we had a short visit to see a friend who underwent surgery recently.

Big brother met us for breakfast on Sunday and then took me for a drive through the countryside of our childhood.  I was returned to my sister for lunch and we both went in search of a sculpture after lunch.

Yesterday, after lunch I headed back north and home.  The holiday is over and I am back to porridge my usual routine.

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Another Hole

Following my post yesterday about the Holestone, Ramana left the following comment:-

My comment is on its way by mail GM. Hope that you will find some way to use it!

This cartoon was attached to the email

This cartoon reminded me of a tale from another time!

When my mother was a young bride she enjoyed nothing better than sunbathing in the privacy of her back garden.  The only way you could see into the garden was from the bedroom window of the house next door.

One day the lady next door called to mammy from over the hedge.   The neighbour was a little embarrassed about what she wanted to say…

“Would you not like to cover up a little and not be a temptation to the men”!

Mammy was not in an outfit like the lady in the cartoon, in fact mammy did not possess a bikini.  She was wearing a pair of shorts and a blouse.  The outfit in the photo below.  She had purchased it on holiday in Nice in 1939, just before the outbreak of WW11.

Mammy in Nice 1939

The shorts are still about, I wore them in the garden in my time.   Elly managed to model them at one point and now my sister wears them while painting and decorating.

The two ladies were neighbours for fifty five years and became good friends, but never thought to call each other by their first names.

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Déjà vu

I read and subscribe to a wide variety of blogs.  Some pop up as regularly as breakfast, while others are more like seasonal treats.

Padmini is the sister of Ramana, a regular commenter here, and she has recently joined our Loose Bloggers Consortium.  This and That, There and Here was added to Padmini’s portfolio in March of this year.  I wonder if she realises what that blog does to me?  The blog-face is simple clean, and straightforward to navigate and comment on, with Twenty Ten the chosen Theme.

I eagerly open up to read the latest entry….. yet each time I am stopped in my tracks.  Ramana might call it Synchronicity.

The header picture catches my eye and I am frozen on the spot.  It is a Déjà vu moment.  “I know this place!  I know that man! And I know why that golden retriever likes to go walking with him every day.” are the thoughts running wildly round my brain.

I need to wind back the clocks twenty five years or more…..

We were staying with mammy in Dublin for a few days.  My eldest brother and his family always made time to catch up with us when we went down to Dublin.  This trip was no different.

During the evening he produced a little gift for Elly.  It was a laminated placemat with a picture.  I think that the photo was originally produced by John Hinde for a postcard or calendar.

It was not the usual type of picture to give a child, but this meant something to Elly and more so to me.

The picture was enough to stop my brother in his tracks as he walked through his local Stationers/Bookshop.  It stopped him long enough to purchase half a dozen placemats for his nieces and nephews.

My brother recognised the area and the walk.  It was in County Kildare and the man was James.

Our picture was taken in much closer, but the shape and the walk are the same.  The dog this time round is walking and sniffing along the verge on the left hand side.

Uncle James was Daddy’s youngest brother.  We would recognise that shape anywhere.  My late uncle James did not own a dog, but another of my brothers was able to tell us that the Golden Retriever went walking with our uncle every day because………….

Not sure I should tell you why…..

No way!

OK, my uncle fed the dog a Mars bar.  I cringe when I think about it!

I noticed the other day that Donncha now has the same Header.

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Things happen in Threes.

Back in March one of my brothers suggested a meet-up of our siblings.  Dates were bandied back and forth and my sister suggested waiting until all the State visits were over and traffic disruption a dull memory.  Since we are all now retired, Monday 13th was the selected day.  I knew of a couple of medical appointments that might interfere and advised the others about them.  Elly suggested that I travel down to Dublin on the Friday and have the weekend with herself and George before ‘the gathering’, so the plans were made.

Then I had two letters to advise me of Medical appointments.  The first was for the morning of Friday 10th to see about my left hip and knee, both of which have been giving me trouble in recent months (Hospital 1).  The second letter was the date for cataract surgery on my left eye, on Wednesday 15th  (Hospital 2).  I packed the car on Thursday night and travelled directly from the hospital appointment on Friday morning to Elly’s.

The weekend was busy and fun.

We had dinner out on the Town on Friday.  George barbequed for friends on Saturday and in between I managed a walk with Buffy and girly shopping with Elly.

Sunday afternoon saw me move to my sister’s – the house where I was born.  Her two dogs were delighted to see me and immediately a tennis ball was placed at my feet.  It was their signal to play.  When I ignored it, the ball was picked up, shown to me and again placed between my feet.  So out we went to the garden and they did all the running while I moved about in the sunshine.

I have already told you about Monday, the Siblings day, most of which was spent out of doors.   The sun was out, but certainly not hot enough for me to hide from.  I am known to wilt & complain about hot sunshine.  But this weekend I didn’t feel the need to complain.  Internally my body had other ideas!

Slowly the problem grew.  The first I realised was a burning sensation in my right index finger.  It felt like I had been scalded.  The redness came later and spread slowly to the second finger, then the ring finger and finally the little one and down the back of my hand to my wrist.  By this stage the thumb had joined the club and the whole hand was very swollen.  Not to be left out, my left hand little by little joined the same club.

By Tuesday morning I could have willingly chopped my hands off.  The journey home in the car was pure agony.  The sun of course was shining through the glass and it made them worse.

As soon as I reached home, I filled a bowl with vinegar and bathed my hands in it.  It did cool things down but that only lasted a short time.  Even moving my hands about indoors caused discomfort and by the time George arrived, I could hack it no longer.  He was not supposed to be on Hospital duty until the next morning, but he took me to A&E immediately (Hospital 3).
I was seen quickly, but by the time bloods and X-rays were taken and results returned, we had been there four hours.  All tests were clear, but it was suggested that I see my GP in the next few days and ask to have a Rheumatology appointment made.   I told them about the cataract operation and they saw no reason for cancellation.

Next morning George was up bright and early to drive me in a different direction and once again sit and wait for me.  Good lad that George.  Elly chose well. ;)  The admitting nurse had a good look at me and asked all the questions she could think of.  She went off to have a word with the Surgeon before administering the five sets of drops to my eye.  The surgeon saw no reason not to go ahead with the procedure so in went the drops.

When I was wheeled into theatre The surgeon and the Pharmacist were waiting for me.  Again I was questioned about my current medications and I had to recite all the drugs that I am allergic to.

Bingo!

Following a course of doxycycline (finished on Sunday) for an infection that had troubled me for some time, I have developed Photosensitivity manifested by an exaggerated sunburn following exposure to direct sunlight or ultraviolet light.   I have had this anti-biotic in the past without a problem and did not anticipate any trouble this time.  At no time was I advised to watch out for this side effect.

“I bet the sun was not shining when you had this drug in the past.” Said the Pharmacist.  So here is another to add to the Do not prescribe list!

When surgery was over and I was wheeled out to the recovery room.  They stopped and the Surgeon asked a favour.  Would I allow them to take photographs of my hands and face, to be used in class.  This was a teaching hospital.  The drug is one they use on a regular basis, so my photographs and description might help prevent someone else going through the same agony.

The Surgeon wrote me up for some strong moisturiser and warned me to stay well covered and use a strong sun block for the remainder of the summer.  AT LEAST.

Decision time…..  Do I join the Badgers in their nocturnal wandering, or….

Borrow a Burka!

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Home again.

Did you miss me?  I had a busy few days with family and friends.  It was fun.

One day was spent with three of my siblings recalling the times we all lived under the one roof….

Was that not just last year?

We headed to The National Botanic Gardens, where we had lunch and sauntered around the various sections of the grounds recalling the tastes & sounds that take each of us right back to that time long ago.  Details of events that each had a different memory of, and the silly things we discovered - like peony roses which three of us hated.  Peeling potatoes got several mentions. :lol:

In the Sensory Garden designed by Joan Rogers in 2002, we sat and enjoyed the sunshine as one story led to another.  Suddenly a robin landed on the railing round the pond, and watched and twittered at us.  All four said in unison “That’s Dan’s Bird!”

Dan’s Bird

Further along we found the fruit and vegetable garden.  Along one wall were Gooseberry bushes and just look at the effect that had on my siblings….

Looking for Babies

I bet Gooseberry bushes never had that effect on you.  I suppose I better explain…

When we were young there was a gooseberry bush next to the shed at the end of the garden.  I seem to remember it being removed after our sister was born.  When ever we asked that thousand dollar question… you know the one:

“Where did I come from?”

We were all told that we were found under a gooseberry bush!

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A little bird told me!

That would be Dan’s bird.  We never really knew which of the 200 regularly occurring bird species in Ireland, Dan’s bird belonged.  It was certainly swift, that is in speed terms.  It had no name other than ‘Dan’s bird’,  Had the brothers been older, then constantly referring to Dan’s bird might have raised smiles or eyebrows. But it was holy catholic Ireland and we were young innocent children.

You see the Dan’s bird seemed to spend most of the day watching our every movement while remaining invisible to us.  All six of us - no matter whether we were all at home or scattered to the four winds of Dublin.  The bird knew exactly where we were and what we were up to.

There were days when Dan came in tired and weary from work, with a face as long as he was tall.  Those were the days when the bird had pecked on the windscreen of the car, her way of asking Dan to roll down the window.  You won’t remember, sure it was long before the days of electric windows in cars.  You had to turn a handle in a circular motion to open or close a window.  Now the car might seem antiquated, but it was magic too… It had a spare gallon of petrol hidden for emergencies. :cool:

Tales of all kinds of mischief were told.  A brother jumping off the roof of the shed at the end of the garden, another ‘boxing the fox’ at Baldy D’s.  Trips to hospital for stitches or checking a broken collar bone.  I am sure there might have been a wee story about me, but I cannot for the life of me remember what it might have been. ;)

Dan’s bird was not into all doom and gloom, she reported the good stories as well as the bad.  Someone winning a race, or passing an exam got a mention.

We thought that every family had a bird like Dan’s.

Did you have one in your household?

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Tenth of March

For over a decade I have not wanted to know about my Birthday.  It had nothing to do with the advancing years.  No.  It was more to do with situations that happened on the date rather than the day.

On my fiftieth birthday I took Jack for a hospital appointment with his Consultant.  On arrival we were informed that the Consultant had been called away for an emergency situation and that we were to be seen by a member of the team.  Since the appointment was routine, we agreed.

It was the wrong decision.  The young Registrar that was assigned to us, was still wet behind the ears and had plenty to learn about dealing with patients.  With two sentences he took away all hope for the most positive person that I have ever met.

TWO SENTENCES!

They were offered in a throwaway fashion equivalent to: Two slices of toast for breakfast would be a waste, you won’t have time to finish the first one!  It was the only time I ever put in a complaint about a member of any medical team.  Thankfully it was taken seriously.

One year later on that day, I followed the ambulance as Jack was transported for admission to the Hospice for his final seven weeks on this earth.

In the intervening years I have tried to ignore my birthday.  Yes there were cards, phone calls, texts and gifts, but I accepted them through a vacant haze.

Elly managed the situation well.  Mother’s Day in Ireland often fell in the week of my birthday, so the card covered both and came on the latter.  Our gifts to each other seldom arrive on the particular day.  A birthday gift might arrive in February or in August; on occasion a large gift will cover birthday, and Christmas and that is how I like it.  An hour together or a chat means more to me than any gift.

This year for the first time I actually felt able to look forward and face the day.  I might even sing the Beatles number this evening as I sip a glass of wine.

My day was spent opening cards and gifts, talking with loved ones and friends and I have postponed the partying until next week to share with Elly and George.

Two items worth sharing:

A book from a friend with a sense of humour!

AND

My name on a list! I am humbled and honoured to be included.  If you nominated me or judged me fit to be there, I offer my humble thanks.

Being 64 is not that bad after all! ;)

Roll on next week.  The cake is planned and the candles are counted…..

This cake arrived by email before breakfast.  Thanks Steph!

Do you think I need to book the Fire Brigade?

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Norah

Norah was the third of eight children and she bounced into this world on this day in 1884.

Carefree and full of dreams, Norah in 1908.

A year later she married my grandfather and together they had seven children, my mother being the third.  My grandfather died when the youngest was sixteen and granny lived on for another twenty six years.

Granny in 1953

I wonder which toy she is hiding under her cardigan?

That was granny to a tee,

She was full of fun and laughter

She passed it all on to me.

Always ready to play and tease,

She lead the band around the trees

Saucepan lids played like cymbals

Pot base beaten in time with wooden spoons

While penny whistles carried the tunes.

Not a day goes by that I do not think of her

Today I’ll raise a glass of thanks

Special wishes wing their way

On what would be her

127th Birthday

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