Comments on: Caring http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/ I am not a has-been. I am a will be. Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance Tue, 22 May 2012 07:48:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23421 Grannymar Wed, 10 Jun 2009 07:53:12 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23421 @Baino - A world wide problem I think, we all need to be aware and do our bit to make a carer's load easier. @Roy - I remember those days, that was how I learned to cook! @Baino - A world wide problem I think, we all need to be aware and do our bit to make a carer’s load easier.

@Roy - I remember those days, that was how I learned to cook!

]]> By: roy http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23419 roy Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:10:00 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23419 when I was a kid I remember some girls used to stay home and tend house while the boys went to school, I used think they were lucky.... not going to school but in reality they were deprived carers when I was a kid I remember some girls used to stay home and tend house while the boys went to school, I used think they were lucky…. not going to school but in reality they were deprived carers

]]> By: Baino http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23417 Baino Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:21:37 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23417 Much the same here Grannymar. In fact a recent job I interviewed for was for a respite for carers organisation and they said that they had many young carers (under 15) who were looking after disabled parents or parents with Alzheimers. They were funded by the government because it's cheaper to have people cared for in their own home than in an institution. Also it's more familiar for those who have diseases that cause mental confusion such as dementia, to stay in their own homes. The carers however still get a rough deal financially and save the government millions on what would otherwise be rehab or hospital alternatives. Hats off to them I say. Much the same here Grannymar. In fact a recent job I interviewed for was for a respite for carers organisation and they said that they had many young carers (under 15) who were looking after disabled parents or parents with Alzheimers. They were funded by the government because it’s cheaper to have people cared for in their own home than in an institution. Also it’s more familiar for those who have diseases that cause mental confusion such as dementia, to stay in their own homes. The carers however still get a rough deal financially and save the government millions on what would otherwise be rehab or hospital alternatives. Hats off to them I say.

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23416 Grannymar Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:48:03 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23416 @Magpie - Two areas that certainly neet more care and attention. @Steph - I have no plans to pop my clogs yet, although I put them together in neat order beside my bed at night! :roll: Have a safe journey to Nottingham tomorrow we will all be thinking of you in the next few days. Hugs. @Magpie - Two areas that certainly neet more care and attention.

@Steph - I have no plans to pop my clogs yet, although I put them together in neat order beside my bed at night! :roll:

Have a safe journey to Nottingham tomorrow we will all be thinking of you in the next few days. Hugs.

]]> By: steph http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23415 steph Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:13:03 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23415 Grannymar, Don't you dare go popping your clogs! Any anyway, you're priceless! :D Grannymar,

Don’t you dare go popping your clogs!

Any anyway, you’re priceless! :D

]]> By: Magpie11 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23414 Magpie11 Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:12:55 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23414 Some of these comments link with what is happening in education and the upbringing of children here in the U.K. My experience as a carer is in the mental health field...even less recognition here... many of the sufferers end up supporting each other...I know someone who, in spite of his mental/emotional problems (as a result of abuse in an orphanage) and suffering with HIV, has a group of people around him whom he supports... he has his own supporters too. There are those of us who have to support family members with difficulties..... no real system exists..... Some of these comments link with what is happening in education and the upbringing of children here in the U.K.

My experience as a carer is in the mental health field…even less recognition here… many of the sufferers end up supporting each other…I know someone who, in spite of his mental/emotional problems (as a result of abuse in an orphanage) and suffering with HIV, has a group of people around him whom he supports… he has his own supporters too. There are those of us who have to support family members with difficulties….. no real system exists…..

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23413 Grannymar Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:43:42 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23413 Darlene, I agree with you about the modern day and families living at different ends of the country or indeed the world. Nursing homes are a bit of a lottery and high fees are no guarantee of good service. There is a lot to be said for a heart attack or sudden death! Darlene,

I agree with you about the modern day and families living at different ends of the country or indeed the world. Nursing homes are a bit of a lottery and high fees are no guarantee of good service. There is a lot to be said for a heart attack or sudden death!

]]> By: Darlene http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23412 Darlene Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:43:24 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23412 This is an often neglected topic that needs to be stressed by the media. When I was a child, relatives were the caregivers and were aided by friends and family. Those with no friends or family were shipped off the the poor farms to wait for death. Now family members are often a thousand miles away and there is no one to care for the infirm unless they are wealthy enough to pay for someone to come in. As a result, they end up in nursing homes; often to be neglected. The ones who have caregivers are lucky, but the caregivers suffer greatly and often end up with health problems of their own. Being a caregiver is exhausting and draining on health and income. We can, and should, do better. This is an often neglected topic that needs to be stressed by the media. When I was a child, relatives were the caregivers and were aided by friends and family. Those with no friends or family were shipped off the the poor farms to wait for death.

Now family members are often a thousand miles away and there is no one to care for the infirm unless they are wealthy enough to pay for someone to come in. As a result, they end up in nursing homes; often to be neglected. The ones who have caregivers are lucky, but the caregivers suffer greatly and often end up with health problems of their own. Being a caregiver is exhausting and draining on health and income. We can, and should, do better.

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23411 Grannymar Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:10:40 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23411 Ramana, This post has taken on a rather mercenary tone, it was not what I set out to do. I do know of several couples where the income in slightly above basic borderline, and therefore they receive no monetary assistance, yet extra laundry, heating or dietary needs eat into what little money they have. I grew up with a caring ethic, we looked after our elders and loved ones without thought of cost. Some families were fortunate to have other extended family members about to assist or take over at times. Nowadays there are many family units who like me have no relations near at hand and that makes the task more difficult. It is for people in that situation I wrote the post. We need to think about them and show them we care. Ramana,

This post has taken on a rather mercenary tone, it was not what I set out to do. I do know of several couples where the income in slightly above basic borderline, and therefore they receive no monetary assistance, yet extra laundry, heating or dietary needs eat into what little money they have.

I grew up with a caring ethic, we looked after our elders and loved ones without thought of cost. Some families were fortunate to have other extended family members about to assist or take over at times.

Nowadays there are many family units who like me have no relations near at hand and that makes the task more difficult. It is for people in that situation I wrote the post. We need to think about them and show them we care.

]]> By: rummuser http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/06/09/caring/#comment-23409 rummuser Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:21:17 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3523#comment-23409 Grannymar, in India, almost every household will have carer/s. We do not have a formalized system but the families are expected to look after the old and the infirm and this is by and large done quite cheerfully and with a lot of help from many others from within the families and friends. Sadly, due to urbanisation and modernisation, this is changing and I do see neglect and loneliness particularly among the older people with children who are part of our diaspora. Grannymar, in India, almost every household will have carer/s. We do not have a formalized system but the families are expected to look after the old and the infirm and this is by and large done quite cheerfully and with a lot of help from many others from within the families and friends.

Sadly, due to urbanisation and modernisation, this is changing and I do see neglect and loneliness particularly among the older people with children who are part of our diaspora.

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