Comments on: He was still there http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/ I am not a has-been. I am a will be. Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance Tue, 22 May 2012 07:39:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22830 Grannymar Fri, 08 May 2009 23:02:40 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22830 @Darlene - I am sorry to rake up old memories for you. Moving away certainly solv ed one part of the problem. @Baino - We have a responsibility to teach our children to deal with all situations without taking away the joy of life. @Darlene - I am sorry to rake up old memories for you. Moving away certainly solv ed one part of the problem.

@Baino - We have a responsibility to teach our children to deal with all situations without taking away the joy of life.

]]> By: Baino http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22829 Baino Fri, 08 May 2009 22:04:11 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22829 Very powerful stuff GrannyMar. Very scary situation. I too wonder if the mollycoddled youth of today are equipped for such situations. They also have things to deal with such as drink spiking. Very powerful stuff GrannyMar. Very scary situation. I too wonder if the mollycoddled youth of today are equipped for such situations. They also have things to deal with such as drink spiking.

]]> By: Darlene http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22826 Darlene Fri, 08 May 2009 21:12:23 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22826 I once had a 'would -be ' boyfriend stalk me and threaten to kill me. He actually did try to choke me once. I had put it out of my mind until I read your chilling account. We are able to move on, but one never forgets such an experience. You made a wise decision to leave the country because having to look over your shoulder from then on would have been a frightening way to live. I once had a ‘would -be ‘ boyfriend stalk me and threaten to kill me. He actually did try to choke me once. I had put it out of my mind until I read your chilling account.

We are able to move on, but one never forgets such an experience. You made a wise decision to leave the country because having to look over your shoulder from then on would have been a frightening way to live.

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22825 Grannymar Fri, 08 May 2009 20:48:39 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22825 Thank you Lily. Thank you Lily.

]]> By: lilinator http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22824 lilinator Fri, 08 May 2009 20:35:53 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22824 I read this post this morning and thought of it a number of times during the day. Well done on many counts! I read this post this morning and thought of it a number of times during the day. Well done on many counts!

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22823 Grannymar Fri, 08 May 2009 17:20:58 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22823 @Magpie - Much too close. @Ramana - Life has thrown many rocks my way and I have listened to people say time and time again to me "It is alright for you, your shoulders are broad"! :lol: I don't have broad shoulders either physically or metaphorically. I learned very very early that you sink or swim. I chose to swim. @Niamh - Alas it was REAL! The post was not written for sympathy but to show that it is possible to overcome such nightmares. @Magpie - Much too close.

@Ramana - Life has thrown many rocks my way and I have listened to people say time and time again to me “It is alright for you, your shoulders are broad”! :lol: I don’t have broad shoulders either physically or metaphorically. I learned very very early that you sink or swim. I chose to swim.

@Niamh - Alas it was REAL! The post was not written for sympathy but to show that it is possible to overcome such nightmares.

]]> By: Niamh http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22822 Niamh Fri, 08 May 2009 16:59:55 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22822 Wow. Grannymar, this is so well and simply written that it seems very real to me, gave me chills to read it. Thank goodness you were able to put it behind you and get on with your life it's not an easy thing to do under such circumstances xxx Wow. Grannymar, this is so well and simply written that it seems very real to me, gave me chills to read it. Thank goodness you were able to put it behind you and get on with your life it’s not an easy thing to do under such circumstances xxx

]]> By: rummuser http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22821 rummuser Fri, 08 May 2009 16:15:03 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22821 Yes, Grannymar, the message is loud and clear. One can move on and get on with living. I doubt very much that there can be anyone on earth without some such significant story to share. Many of them allow the experience/s to become the benchmark for future relationships and become unbalanced. Yes, Grannymar, the message is loud and clear. One can move on and get on with living. I doubt very much that there can be anyone on earth without some such significant story to share. Many of them allow the experience/s to become the benchmark for future relationships and become unbalanced.

]]> By: Magpie11 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22820 Magpie11 Fri, 08 May 2009 16:04:38 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22820 Too close for comfort. Well done. Some don't come through those experiences. Too close for comfort.

Well done. Some don’t come through those experiences.

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2009/05/08/he-was-still-there/#comment-22819 Grannymar Fri, 08 May 2009 13:57:27 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/?p=3071#comment-22819 @Steph - The apartment was comfortable, bright and had all I needed. The building was carpeted throughout and the Janitor had all the public areas spotless. He was available if a workman needed access to an apartment and saw to it that no mess was left uncleared. It was not unusual to be without a phone back then. We were not the slaves to technology that we are now. @Nancy - Terrible things still happen unfortunately, and often the victim is blamed. We need to take care but not be afraid to live. I worry for today's young children; they are so over protected, how will they learn to live outside the bubble? @Steph - The apartment was comfortable, bright and had all I needed. The building was carpeted throughout and the Janitor had all the public areas spotless. He was available if a workman needed access to an apartment and saw to it that no mess was left uncleared. It was not unusual to be without a phone back then. We were not the slaves to technology that we are now.

@Nancy - Terrible things still happen unfortunately, and often the victim is blamed. We need to take care but not be afraid to live. I worry for today’s young children; they are so over protected, how will they learn to live outside the bubble?

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