Comments on: Life http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/ I am not a has-been. I am a will be. Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 19:50:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Darren http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4761 Darren Tue, 04 Mar 2008 11:01:56 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4761 Let me tell you my very positive story: as a result of family pressures and a painfully religious background, I was <a href="http://www.darrenbyrne.com/wordpress/?p=29" rel="nofollow">given up for adoption</a> 26 years ago. I have had a good life and am very happy with my lot. Last year, I got back in touch with my Biomammy and have had a brilliant year getting to know her, her husband (not my biological father) and her family, who were all very welcoming. So, it's true, some people do not appreciate their lives. I realise how mine could have gone and I am very grateful each day for what I have. It's sad that the restrictive nature of small town Ireland in the early eighties/late seventies left so many women with no option other than to give up their children, but I'm proud to say there are some very happy and very positive outcomes from it too. Let me tell you my very positive story: as a result of family pressures and a painfully religious background, I was given up for adoption 26 years ago. I have had a good life and am very happy with my lot. Last year, I got back in touch with my Biomammy and have had a brilliant year getting to know her, her husband (not my biological father) and her family, who were all very welcoming.

So, it’s true, some people do not appreciate their lives. I realise how mine could have gone and I am very grateful each day for what I have.

It’s sad that the restrictive nature of small town Ireland in the early eighties/late seventies left so many women with no option other than to give up their children, but I’m proud to say there are some very happy and very positive outcomes from it too.

]]> By: Nick http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4760 Nick Tue, 04 Mar 2008 10:45:21 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4760 There but for the grace of God go I is all too true. How many cocky, complacent people have thought their life is going splendidly and then suddenly are hit by total disaster? That's why I'm always very much aware of all the losers and victims in our society who struggle on against hopeless odds while others swan along in well-padded lifestyles. And why I always consider my own fairly comfortable existence to be as much due to good fortune as to my own efforts. There but for the grace of God go I is all too true. How many cocky, complacent people have thought their life is going splendidly and then suddenly are hit by total disaster? That’s why I’m always very much aware of all the losers and victims in our society who struggle on against hopeless odds while others swan along in well-padded lifestyles. And why I always consider my own fairly comfortable existence to be as much due to good fortune as to my own efforts.

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4757 Grannymar Tue, 04 Mar 2008 10:06:06 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4757 Ian I hope she was allowed to lead an open life and received help and support along the way. Ian I hope she was allowed to lead an open life and received help and support along the way.

]]> By: Ian http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4756 Ian Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:37:16 +0000 http://www.grannymar.com/blog/2008/03/04/life/#comment-4756 Grannymar, I fear she would have gone back into a community that was at once very supportive and very restrictive. After that there would probably have not been too many suitors and not too many opportunities for a life outside of home. (At least the kids growing up in the 1980s would have been more affirmed than one man whom I knew whose mother was unmarried in the 1950s and who was never given a surname in anything involving the local church - things like Sunday School prizegiving saw him being called up by Christian name alone). Grannymar,

I fear she would have gone back into a community that was at once very supportive and very restrictive. After that there would probably have not been too many suitors and not too many opportunities for a life outside of home.

(At least the kids growing up in the 1980s would have been more affirmed than one man whom I knew whose mother was unmarried in the 1950s and who was never given a surname in anything involving the local church - things like Sunday School prizegiving saw him being called up by Christian name alone).

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